If your only measure is consecutive days, you've built a system where a single evening deletes months of work. That's not just demoralising, it's inaccurate — someone who went from daily to twice in ninety days has changed their life, and a streak counter would show them a 3.
So we track four things, and days is only one of them.
- Distress. How much this bothers you, 0–10. Down is the headline result. Someone using at the same rate but no longer in a shame spiral has achieved something real.
- Control. Whether your behaviour matches your intention. This directly measures the thing that defines a problem.
- Cost. Hours reclaimed, sleep, conversations had, things built. Concrete, countable, motivating.
- Frequency. Useful context. Not the score.
And one more, which is the real one: time to recovery after a slip. The gap between a lapse and getting back on. Going from a two-week blowout to a next-morning restart is one of the strongest signals that this will stick — and it's the number that improves fastest, which is exactly what you need early on.
The streak stays on your Recovery screen, because knowing is better than not knowing. It just stops being the score.
Takeaways
- A streak-only system lets one evening delete months of real change.
- Distress down is a result, even at the same frequency.
- Time to recovery after a slip is the number that moves first.
In the app, this lesson ends with a practice
Pick the one you want to be your measure.
Sources and how strong they are (3)
- Well establishedFrequency of use alone is a poor indicator of problematic use. Distress, impaired control and functional impairment are what distinguish it.Bőthe et al. 2018, 2020; ICD-11 CSBD criteria
- Well establishedMarlatt's relapse-prevention model identifies the Abstinence Violation Effect: after a lapse, attributing it to a permanent personal flaw predicts a full return to the behaviour.Marlatt & Gordon 1985; Curry et al. 1987
- Well establishedProblematic pornography use tracks distress better than overall frequency of use does. People who use frequently without distress and people who use frequently with it are distinguishable, and it is the problematic group that differs on mental-health measures - most clearly on depressive symptoms and self-esteem.Bothe et al. 2020, J Sex Med 17(4):793-811, doi:10.1016/j.jsxm.2020.01.007
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